![]() that she was feeling overwhelmed and emotionally out of control and needed space from him. He couldnt see and understand the situation for what it was. In his minds eye, she was communicating literslly what she wanted. So he took it to literally mean "Amy doesnt love me. Unfortunately, Michael has obvious developmental delays in functioning and I dont believe he is able to read social cues or understand abstract thinking or communication. By threatening divorce, she communicated to Michael that he isnt good enough, that he is a failure as a husband and Father. Amy loves/loved Michael and loved the idea of being in love and having a husband and family. Unfortunately, the threat of divorce she used, did not actively communicate her deepest desires in her heart. What was happening was beyond her emotional coping capability. She had reached her breaking point in that moment and she was innefectively stating she "had enough" from him in that moment. In an effort to control the situation in the moment, while trying to stop him from continuing to fight her on things, she played the divorce card. Its a sick cycle that will go around and around until they reach a breaking point or someone learns how to put a stop to the cycle.Īmy used the threat of divorce in that heated moment with Michael because she felt how he was treating her was disrespectful, making her feel angry and making her feel like she is not in control. They lack awareness of how they are disrespecting their spouse because they are only focussed on how they feel disrespected by the other. Its often done by both parties without even being fully aware of the way they are responding to one another. Each spouse feels disrespected and each spouse does not feel loved or appreciated and feels that they are capable of motivating the other spouse to change by their own means. Its a common cycle that occurs amongst men and women in marriages sub-consciously. Michael will feel disrespected and feel called out for his behavior or actions and instesd of being motivated by her angry words and frustration, he will now feel disrespected and un-loved which will result in him withdrawing into his own world or ignoring her knowing that it makes her angry, in hopes she will get the picture that he feels angry and disrespected. Michael disrespects Amy by doing somthing or saying something she doesnt like.Īmy feeling disrespected by the man, will then say and do thing in her anger and frustration to "motivate" Michael to change his behavior, words or actions. Its a common tactic of spouses in communication and oart of a deadly cycle. ![]() Link flair: See the wiki for explanation of the link flair available.User flair: Click "edit" under "Show my flair" in the "Subreddit Info" section.Do not post these links anywhere else on the sub (comments and posts). Merch links and discussion (etsy, amazon, ebay, etc) are not allowed.Low-effort content may be removed as well. Redundant threads will be removed as they add nothing to the discussion and just clutter up the feed. Be respectful! Please practice good reddiquette. ![]()
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